I know the holiday season is upon us and for many of us, instead of feeling gratitude and grace, we are feeling stressed, exhausted and depleted. We can’t seem to catch up. The world seems to have turned upside down and there is a very conflictual polarization that is showing itself everywhere.
Our Vision at TCFCC is to Create a Culture of Care. Yes, we want to Transform the Culture of Conflict that seems to have penetrated all systems and Create a Culture of Care.
How, you may ask? How do we mere mortals in the small town of Brick, NJ start to change this conflictual space we find ourselves in and create a space of Care, Cooperation and Respect?
We don’t believe that Creating a Culture of Care is going to start with large collective leader-driven institutions or organizations or governments.
We believe that a Culture of Care starts SIMPLY with Conscious Care Givers. We believe that to become a Conscious Care Giver, each one of us must learn and practice CARING for ourselves.
Only then will we have the stamina and know how to expand ourselves and authentically Care for each other. And only with the practice of caring for each other do we have the stamina and know-how to expand ourselves and Care for all of us within our communities.
We call this process of caring for ourselves Radical Self Care. Radical, because we haven’t ever been taught or trained or mentored how to do that. Caring has always been an outwardly focused concept. Something we do for others.
Ohhhh I know… we can get showered and dressed, drive to work and pay our monthly bills. But Caring for ourselves is much more than paying the rent or driving the kids to school. Do we really know how to care, nurture and love ourselves? Do we value ourselves enough to stay home when we are sick? Do we value ourselves enough to eat healthy foods, sleep at least 8 hours, get exercise or cultivate healthy supportive relationships? Do we value ourselves enough to leave toxic home or work environments?
If we don’t, then our attempts to care, nurture and love others will fall short. If we can’t sustain ourselves, we will not be able to sustain others. That is just common sense.
But what is not so common are the teachers, the mentors, the role models that live Radical Self Care. They have become Conscious Care Givers. What is not so common is to have processes, practices and procedures that enable us to learn and practice Radical Care for Ourselves
But at TCFCC we have teachers, mentors, and role models. We have processes, practices and procedures that guide you on your path of Radical self-care.
As we become Conscious Care Givers, we each become our own Leader in the movement to transform the Culture of Conflict. We each become our own Leader in the movement to Create a Culture of Care, within our own sphere of influence. Our homes, clubs, churches, schools, workplaces all benefit from this influence.
Please contemplate over this holiday season what space you wish to hold, for you, your family, your community. A space of Conflict or a space of Care? If you wish to hold a space of Care and become a Conscious Care Giver, then we encourage you to check us out in 2020. We will be having a variety of new classes and programs becoming available to help you do just that.
And may I please note, during this season of Thanks Giving, that we are over the moon with gratitude for our staff and volunteers who are in process of becoming Conscious Care Givers. As such, they are leading and positively influencing our Center’s growth and development. We are humbled by their commitment and creativity.
May you and yours enjoy a Consciously Caring Holiday Season.